MARRIAGE: WIFE’S ORGASM
While coitus and orgasm are for all practical purposes synonymous in the male, the two must be considered separately in the female. Since we were able to interview only a few of the wives of the men in this study, we have necessarily relied upon the man’s report on his wife’s orgasmic response. We are keenly aware that some men are essentially ignorant of how often their wives reach orgasm in coitus and that other males have been deceived by their wives in this respect. Furthermore, we know the masculine tendency to look upon one’s own sexual activity through rose-colored glasses, and easily persuade oneself that one’s female partners reach orgasm frequently. With these qualifications in mind we thought it best to focus only upon the extremes, and hence calculated the percentage of the years of marriage during which the wife was minimally responsive (orgasm no more than once in ten acts of coitus), moderately responsive (orgasm in 11-89 per cent of the coitus), and very responsive (orgasm in 90 per cent or more of the coitus). Thus, for example, a figure: of 50 per cent in the very responsive category means that during half of the marriage the wife reached orgasm in coitus 90 per cent or more of the time.
Examining this calculation, it is at once obvious that the great majority of sex offenders had (according to their reports) unusually responsive wives. All but two sex-offender groups reported that in over half of their married years their wives readied orgasm nine times out of ten or better. Those reporting the most responsive wives were the peepers, the aggressors vs. minors, and aggressors vs. children; for three quarters or more of their married lives the wives of these men had a high orgasmic response.8 These figures exceed those which married women reported and which we published in our volume on female sexual behavior.” It is unfortunate that these three groups are the three smallest in terms of ever-married males: 25, 14, and 18 respectively. At the other end of the range one finds the control group (47 per cent), exhibitionists (46 per cent), and lastly the homosexual offenders vs. adults (39 per cent).
About all one can say is that by their own reports the sex offenders cannot ordinarily claim lack of sexual responsiveness in their wives as a factor contributing importantly to their offense. Before closing this subject, we must call attention to the fact that the three groups claiming the most responsive wives were groups which sought gratification outside of marriage by the most extreme methods—violence (the aggressors ) and stealth (the peepers). The aggressors are also notable for their ability to develop ego-gratifying errors in judgment as to the responses of their sexual partners: their victims eventually enjoy their rape and their wives nearly always have orgasm.
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